Protect Your Mental Health And Love People From A Distance

Let’s be clear, your mental health is what truly allows you to function. I’m a high-functioning introvert and I consume a lot of variations of energy from others. Anyone experiencing mental depression could explain this differently. Still, overall I feel like we all could agree that it feels exactly like a suction cup looks—a tug-of war with gravity. A tear away from needing to be picked up from the floor and being suctioned back to being upright.

Most people I know experiencing mental health issues are givers!

The type of people who willingly go out of their way to help others. The one who pushes others to be great.

You would think that the givers are living a soft life, right?

Well, you’re wrong. You see, the givers are the first to be looked over and disrespected. The truth is when someone is operating at a low level, and “the giver” helps them get back to — operating in bliss — the once low-operating person no longer needs them. They reject them because now, someone has seen them at their lowest.

Pride is what destroys relationships. Instead of being appreciative, people would rather push you away because of the pride of not wanting to admit you saved them multiple times.

At this point, you’re mentally exhausted and you must seek shelter away from the people you love the most.

Being nice, helpful, and available is purely exhausting, especially when it’s not appreciated. But, does that mean you have to stop being, you?

Not exactly! However, it does push you in a direction of isolation that furthers your mental depression that stems mostly from confusion. I personally think most people battling mental depression are confused by human behavior.

That’s just my perspective because I get flustered with how people treat people.

Generally speaking, I have great peer relationships, and I’d like to think that I’m a decent person. I stay away from negative energy as much as possible — I stop conversations that start leaning into gossip — I genuinely am uninterested in drama.

At some point, we have to acknowledge that loving people from a distance is non-negotiable!

Listen, If you’ve made it this far, then please don’t scroll beyond this point.

Apart from growing up, you start to get a better understanding of how the people closest to you operate. You will visually witness the interaction they have with you and with others. Your memory is going to be a huge part of how you will protect your mental health.

This is not a bad thing.

Do you know that saying “forgive but never forget”? Or “let go and let GOD”?

Well, in all honesty, this is why you remain a good person. You don’t have to seek revenge or become bitter. If you allow yourself to be free of those who drain you mentally, the soft life begins. The natural light that surrounds you will eat away at those who tried to break you — for whatever reason.

Let the “heal” part of mental health begin.

How did I get into the healing phase of my mental health?

Faithfully listening to my heart. Understanding how I know right from wrong, I knew I was allowing people to drain me. I thought my being a nice person would smooth over and unfortunately, I became mentally drained.

With isolation, I quickly realized, that was a form of mental depression.

Truthfully, I didn’t want to be around people because my personality doesn’t allow me to be cordial to people that hurt me or the people I love the most.

Oddly enough, I wasn’t upset with how people treated me personally. It was more frustrating witnessing how people disrespected those I care for the most for absolutely no reason.

” If you are willing to question your current beliefs, assumptions, perceptions and the “facts” you’ve accumulated over the years, you will put yourself in a better position to upgrade your level of thinking, and improve your blindspots.”

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In conclusion

Everything that I have experienced, or am currently experiencing affects my mental well-being — I can focus on my feelings. How I feel is undoubtedly the most important part of understanding how I should care for my overall stability. Whenever I am mentally drained, I get exhausted physically.

Sometimes, that physical exhaustion leads to body aches and pains.

Do I blame myself for my mental depression phases? Not fully. Absolutely not. Other people also contribute to my mental health. It would be unsettling for me to point fingers in every direction — however, I would be lying if I didn’t acknowledge those that know that they are poking at me.

I love who I am. Changing how I operate only hurts me. For that reason, it’s unhealthy for me to remain a helping hand to those who do not deserve my time.

You are allowed to be selfish to maintain your mental health. Even more so, you are allowed to say no without reason — and without having to listen to feedback.

“If I want to remain happy and healthy, I have to love some people from a distance — that is how I will protect my mental health.”